the seeding and the growth...

One of the things which make our life happy, beautiful and also tactful is children. We make them, build them and with them we make ourselves very tough and skillful. It is a very difficult job to handle and develop them. They grow and develop according to the parenting they get, their surroundings and their own experiences. Understanding them and thinking from their point of view is really necessary. We think children don’t have an opinion of their own. But they can have. They should be made used to take decisions and form opinions. They know what they like and what they need, but just that sometimes they cannot decide what to opt for. Everything we teach them gets fixed in their mind so well that even after a long span of time since the teaching or any particular incident or something takes place, they remember that situation or taught stuff thoroughly. Like we learnt alphabets when we were kids and we remember it better than any other thing in life. Even if someone wakes us up from a deep sleep n asks we can still answer. Likewise any good or bad incident taking place in our life has the respective impact on our lives. We think in the same way which we are used to, unless we plan to change patterns.

People, parents, friends, teachers, neighbors play a great role in forming a child’s life. Between them, parents and teachers are the ones whom they actually rely on and try to imitate as they are the ones with whom they spend major part of their lives.

Many things help to make a child’s mind healthy. A dialogue between parents and a child is very important. They should be asked for opinions. They know what to do if we leave it up to them. This makes them decisive. Though small not necessary they should be treated small. They should be made a part of everything. This inculcates a sense of responsibility in them. They must learn something from everything. But they should also be provided with their own space and their privacy.

Maturing before age is not at all wrong. If a child wants something like a toy or something and also a book for his curriculum and you cannot afford both at the same time, no need to hide your status from him. He must know the truth. Its not that children don’t understand, it’s just that they don’t get a chance.

Being friendly with them is also important. It’s necessary to keep their eyes open to difficulties and opportunities. With your help they can also take the most important decisions of life, they just need a chance. “You are still small, you don’t understand, you have not seen the world”. Statements like these upset the children and make them feel inferior. If they are small let them be, if they do not understand make them understand, if they haven’t sent he world show them the world! Let them experience everything, be it anything. They should know that it’s their life and no-one has a right on it other than them, not even you! It’s they who have to make it or lose it. They shouldn’t come in any influence.

It’s necessary to trust your children and make them trust themselves. There is no place for emotional fools, making them practical is essential. Make them realize that they can count on you if they go wrong in life. Show them the right path. But with all this one thing is very very important and should be taken care of. Children are not your property! They are souls with their own opinions; their own bursting wills and wishes. They shouldn’t be treated as things or objects. They are like beautiful flowers blooming on green earth. Let them try themselves with the game of life and with this you can see an ever growing smile on their face which will make your chest swell with pride!

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

moving on...

Every person goes through same things in life in every phase. May it be a girl or a guy. The main test comes when the time comes to realise things and move on. We do blame others when we see them doing something wrong but we fail to see that we have done or are doing the same thing which they have or are. May be the mediums and situations are different but the questions and the answers to them never seem to change. If we see someone doing some mistake we have to learn through their mistakes too.
Everyone is an idiot at some point of life. But what's important is that it should remain till some point of life only. If we repeat one mistake more than once then its not called a mistake. Self realisation is really important in life. Without that we cannot move on.
Life gets you stuck at many places. But unbinding yourself is completely in ur hands. Things change after a while but they change according to the steps u take. Ur future depends upon the every step u take in ur present.
So think and step at all times!

Cheers to you..cheers to lyf..!

the guy thing...

Well, actually speaking, you can call this an observation rather than a perception. Though all the perceptions are based on our observations, I don’t want to make anything underlined.
So talking about guys, as in males in general, there are types of them. There are types of them in themselves too, types as in phases or parts. When we say every individual is different we mean their thoughts and mind sets differ but even with this they orbit around certain presets!

Ok. So, to start with, you love to take people for granted. Everything is cool until things go according to your wish and will, but as soon as the tables turn there is something inside you which starts hurting. Call it your ego or just let it be “something”. You always like things to go according to you. You call it a safe play. You stay in your own cocoon. Your paradise! When things change you get insecure. But even with all this you have something called as a Happy-go-lucky and out-going nature. You don’t have the habit of clinging on to things (except for your girlfriend’s or wife’s faults :P ). You take one thing at a time. For instance, if you are watching a match you can think of nothing else! :P Well jokes apart, while doing something in particular, you don’t even think about other things. But, you don’t talk what you think and don’t think what you talk. You never speak your heart. Sometimes pouring your heart out does help. And for god sake crying is NOT girly! Please get this fixed in your mind. It really needs guts to cry!
One thing I don’t understand about you is why on earth are you so very eager or desperate to find a partner? Either as a general non-bonded relation or a serious long-term relation, you always need that special someone. Not that you share everything with that person. Also, even if things are kept in front of you, you still don’t seem to see them! What’s with the pretending? Or are you really that dumb? Dating is your favorite hobby, sex on the top of your to-do list. You love to do everything which is wacky and adventurous. You are always ready to try new things though sometimes with a crooked nose but you do it, also sometimes because you have to save your image and pride. It’s very rare that you take things on yourself. You are a very lazy species.
Things which make you happy include the things you like to do the most. For instance playing sports or watching them, hanging out or drinking with your gang, cars or bikes or vehicles in all, electronics, technology, etc. you love your inside guy things and jokes. You have your own ways to look at things. You love competition. You don’t like people cribbing about things and hammering you with things every now and then.
People say it’s very difficult to understand a woman. I say it’s untrue. Understanding guys is the tougher one. It is tough because they don’t let you understand them. They don’t speak out.

I had once read something somewhere, it goes this way “If the world comprised of all men there would be world wars, and if the world comprised off all women, there would be countries just jealous and not talking to each other.”

PS – I know you have many objections and arguments on this but this is just in general I have pointed. Read my first statement again.

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

keeping it open…

We join some class or some course to help us know things better, i.e. to learn something, to completely understand things by filling the blanks between the half knowledge that we already possess. For this we should have two things, one is to have the urge and eagerness to learn and second is to have an open mind set towards whatever is going to get into our heads. Most of us have a preoccupied mind which already has a little of the big mass which still has to get in and we think that this little is actually the whole mass. This leads to have a closed mind set. We need to make ourselves understand that there are things that we still don’t know. We can’t always think that we are the most knowledgeable and others contain none.

When someone younger or equal tries to tell us something related to something in which we consider ourselves ace, we don’t take that in because we have programmed our mind saying that we know things and someone younger to us cannot possess a better understanding of this ‘something’. The younger ones knowledge may be right and may also be more than ours, but we never pay a heed. Mind you, this is our loss and not anyone else’s and we need to understand this. We keep ourselves in dark by not trying to understand other’s things. In the effort of keeping our ego firm, we lose everything which would enhance our skills and knowledge or may be even our destinations or goals.

It is really important to keep a free mind so that we don’t end up losing something which would have been easy to achieve. there is no harm in knowing things even though we don’t use the gain ever in our lives, but lack of them can anytime create troubles. Be smart in choosing. Choice is yours!

Cheers to life, cheers to you…!

perceptions...

When we set up our mind on something, we have experienced that something. But if we set it up without experiencing it, it’s useless to set your mind frame so. We listen to people, their experiences and then wonder what would we do if were in that situation and point out things to the person who has been through it. But dude that is just not enough. When we actually are in some situation there are many things going on in our mind at a time. So there are chances that many things can just slip through and we don’t even notice them. Listening to others experiences help us to know what we can do in such a situation but finally what we do is totally up to us.

If we set our mind without knowing about things there is a chance that we mess up in some situations. Just like if we go unprepared for an exam we are sure to fail. So instead of having some kind of perceptions in our mind about some things or people, we can just give a try at everything, understand everything and know it better. And then if we be through something we can to it confidently!

What I want to say is 1st impression is not always the last impression. People change, things change, situations change. Even the same situation may have a different phase and face. So it is necessary to look at everything afresh! Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

lessons and credits...

A person, a thing, surroundings, everything around us forms us. At least 1 thing in our life has such a great impact on us that we change. It can also mean a complete 180° turn. Our life can be upside down just because of someone or something. It can be anyone; say our parents, friends, an acquaintance or even a passer by. That situation slaps us so hard that it shudders everything, from our concepts to our mindset, everything!

We wonder what made us think the way we were thinking till then. We learn these lessons all our lives and even though we forgive we don’t forget. And why should we? There’s no use if we forget the reason for our change! That reason is the base for everything. It keeps us going. But the most important thing is that we should know is where to sulk and where to move on. Life doesn’t wait for anyone. We have to keep us going and achieve what we were meant to. Life gives us these lessons all our life. But we should face it with a smile. Remember even death doesn’t come to your way easily if you are not scared of it.

Talking about people and lessons, have you ever thought of giving someone their credits? Like if you like something or have a something in life because of someone, have you ever gone to the person and said simple thanks? Or if you think you did something wrong with someone or with something, have you ever been to d person n said sorry or apologized any how any way? If you participated in something and couldn’t win did you ever go to the winner and say congratulations or at least accepted that you did not deserve enough or have you always made excuses about your failure?
Think about this.

Put up what you feel about this below. I am waiting for inputs from your side. Common people lets see what you guys have to say on this.
Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…

Basic v/s change…

 

We have some basics since our childhood. We change. Make many changes within us, also around us. Improved or just with the flow. But our basics never change. We need to balance them with the new being within us. Its difficult. Really. But have to. To keep our self rooted we always need to be firm. There always should be a dialogue between you n your inner you. Change isn’t bad but we should never forget what we were..for 2 reasons..:

1. It keeps us down and helps us blend with the reality and also understand it.

2. Most important….its the reason for our change!

 

We are supposed to polish this bond that they share and eventually handling life becomes easy. If this bond isn’t strong, we lose it all and that’s how we behave weird and end up in a mess.

Its important to analyse. Sometimes getting away from things makes you understand the value of the others. May it be the thing which has changed or may be the older things in you which you couldn’t see or value when attracted or influenced by other new ones.

The most important thing in life is nothing but understanding ourselves. If we know ourselves we can crack anything and everything!

cheers to lyf…cheers 2 you…!

A small gratitude for our life makers...

Mom and dad! What do you understand from these words; friends, parents, just some human around you? Rather do we even consider them humans? Rather have you ever wondered or taken in consideration the feelings or emotions or even presence of another human being in front of all the so called priorities of yours? We people are so ungrateful of someone’s deeds. The best word here is “Ehsaan Faramosh”! Really! We really need to check our behaviours.
Just think about that favourite thing of yours which is so dear to you. Or those who have pets in their house just think about them. You feed them caress them, take good care of them grow them very fondly, take them out for strolls n all. Everything is just fine and happy! And one fine day they just do not eat from your hand or refuse to go out with you or may be if it’s a dog, barks at you if you go near. What would you think? How would you react? Throw them out of the house? That’s what our parents should do when we behave so then, don’t you think?
Come on people. Get real! Every person like you has some feelings and emotions just like you. Realise this! Every time when we are not in mood we feel there should be someone who can make us feel good. And when we turn around, ta da! Here they stand like angels with a smiling face just to make us smile. In spite of all the messes around their heads or no matter what kinds of problems they might be facing. But without even giving you a hint they star on the stage! And what we give them? We think we know everything and say what ever comes in our mind, behave as we wish. But even then their love for us doesn’t decrease.
Some parents just don’t show that they love. But they do. You can only see that they shout at you but turn blind to see what all they do for you. Your clothes, your food, even your moods! They manage everything! The mothers are always in the kitchen when you need them. No matter what happens dads are always ready to fight for our living. They also change places and responsibilities sometimes. But they see to it that everything you need is just at an arms reach. They shout for nothing but our own good. What do they get if we score well or earn well? It’s for our benefit! They want us to be happy and settle down with a better, no , the best living that is possible!
Now some may have problem agreeing with this also. So for them…my dear darlings you at least have a shelter on your heads! Money for your educations! What else you want? So what if they behave distant with you? Their intention doesn’t change. Instead of wasting time fighting or disagreeing with them save this energy and be someone. You have been getting what you need always. So where do you see nooks in here man? Everything or everyone isn’t perfect. Or rather nothing is perfect. It won’t kill you if you make someone happy a bit! You have your whole life to live according to your will after they grow old. But for some while just try to have a share in their works, a smile in their smiles, as they do for you. You won’t be able to do as much they do, don’t even think of that! But a little won’t be a problem, will it?
Common just once without making faces or saying no just do what they say and I am sure they will never forget this in their life! We all need love.

Some lines I would like to dedicate to my Ma n Dadda and also to all your parents from your sides because I know how foolish you people are. This is a song by Miley Cyrus. Here it goes…

You tucked me in, turned out the light
Kept me safe and sound at night
Little girls depend on things like that
Brushed my teeth and combed my hair
Had to drive me everywhere
You were always there when I looked back
You had to do it all alone
Make a living, make a home
Must have been as hard as it could be

And when I couldn't sleep at night
Scared things wouldn't turn out right
You would hold my hand and sing to me

“Caterpillar in the tree
How you wonder who you'll be
Can't go far but you can always dream
Wish you may and wish you might
Don't you worry, hold on tight
I promise you there will come a day
Butterfly fly away”

Love to all those hands who bruised themselves in taking pains while growing you or rather i should say US. Hope you understand some day and love them to.

Cheers to you, cheers to life…!

TRUST...

alone you come alone you go
there is always help at a time
but for sumtime you are alone sumwhere
especially at a prime time
everyone shows a trust at first
taking big vows
but when the time comes, no1 even hinders around
no1 to ask even in need
we go mad at ourselvs when
we find ourselves so
find trusting sum1 so badly
but people just go off making a crap out of us
never to rely never to suppose do what you can do of urself without expecting
anyone to be there
all is fake atlast only one thing remains
that is you and only you
no one cares if you stay
no one cares if you die
searching for ones happiness
everyone just goes on thinking
nothing but me myself
when you think you trust sum1
just look out there is a big trouble
people dont trust you
especially when you actually need them
your words dont count
your life worthless
if anything matters its always
how one lives for oneself
frustration engulfing you, you move on
without any strength for anything
without aiming for anything
waiting for your time to come
waiting till the last minute...!



Trust is the most sensitive part of our lives. Whoever comes in our life smiles a bit shares a bit, makes us laugh, we tend to trust them. Then finally when they break it we easily blame it on them and back out of our responsibility. Whatever happened also has a bit of our fault in it too. It’s not every time that others are wrong. We can b wrong too. Our fault is that we trust them at the first place. We can’t trust someone just on the first meet. We need to know someone to predict his or her behaviour. So next time you tend to trust someone at the first instance, think twice, take your time analyze and see if the person is worth it!

cheers to lyf...cheers to you!

Behaviour...

Normally what and how we behave has an important impact on our life. Its our behaviour and attitude toward things that makes things work in life. Proper distance has to be maintained where necessary and also a proper way has to be given to things which need space and time.
We blame others or fate for the things which happen in our life. But do we really ever check our behaviour? If you face some trouble that is just because of you and no one else is responsible. May be they play a small part like a step but that leads to trouble in your life. So, to ensure that you don’t have problems in your life you have to keep track of your own behaviour.

Cheers to lyf…cheers to you…!