Friday, 23 March 2012

Life Linez...

Everyone of us has a different definition about our lives. But the steps we take while living this life are always being trodden upon at least once by someone else. My definition for life could be judged by this blog. I never wrote anything about me or related to me here. But everything I write is a part of me, part of what I feel and think. These are few lines which all of us go through with the game of Life. Something with the essence of this blog I write. Something which in a way defines this blog and my life as well. Hope you guys like it as always. So here I go with the Life Linez…

P.S: Dont judge the second last line. Its just a rhyme and part of life not the specific thing you think it is. :P

Climbing up or falling down
Wiping tears or sniffing sounds
Laughing hard or throw a frown
All this just in one countdown

Hoping high or holding low
Feeling high or feeling low
Stretch the neck or show a bow
But you always remain a fellow

People come and people go
Watching all your petty shows
Smart you think and smart you show
But then realize you were foolish though

Raise your tongue and raise your mouth
And here, get replied by a shout
Try a glimpse and just look out
Breaking news! "Silence is what it's al about"

Moving in or moving on
Tying knots or breaking bonds
Just twilight or breaking dawn
Be it anyway, life just goes on...

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf...!

Tuesday, 13 March 2012

Making the right choice...

A new thing is beginning to worry me nowadays. Not that it’s a new thing but it definitely leads to huge problems within people. I’m talking about career selection to be precise.
People choose something, and keep on doing it even though they don’t ace it. Even though the option they choose doesn’t make them happy they don’t plan on to look for something else but keep rubbing their ass on the damn thing which will, in near future, pay them almost nothing.

We all come to face unwanted troubles on all walks of life. Every big decision is interlinked with big pressure. The final call depends upon the individual’s strength of will. If the person is ready to take the risk and force his way out to his needs and satisfaction he is definitely fit for the world. But what about those who think they can’t?

Why are we so paranoid about ourselves, our future? Life is a game. You have everything to lose, but you literally don’t lose anything! And damn that’s a fact! You really got to believe in yourself so as to prove yourself right and work things out for yourself. Popping problems behind your back doesn’t really solve them. They don’t vanish that way. To get rid of them you ought to turn back, face them and then, and only then will they stop following you.

In olden days there used to be very little options to think about and opt for. But here we are in the 21st century where we are open to everything. If one road is blocked there are different paths we can take to reach our destination. Or for that matter we can change our destination as well! It’s nothing like a big deal now! There is no age to learn anything new. Looking into career point of view there are ample of things and fields which does need man power. Everything you point out to has scope in it. But if you keep on going the way you are it can give worse impacts which you really can never even think of. You might tend to lose faith in yourself, your social life can be affected and your psychological state might dwindle. One wrong decision or one hesitation for that push and your house of cards can lose its balance. You need to make up your mind about the importance of your own life in your own eyes.
If there is one thing that you have chosen and it no longer interests you, at any point of life you can think of another option. You just need to have the zeal. It might happen that the next option you choose takes you to great heights and you may ace it.

No work is big or small. Anything and everything is possible. Trust yourself. It’s your life you are playing with so you better be careful or it may take you to rubbles. Others are not going to come for your aid if you slip n fall in pit. It’s only you! You fall, you get up and you start walking again. Come alone go alone. One decision and your life may change. It is you who has to decide whether to give up with pressures around or look for that far-fetched success which will give meaning to your life and you yourself!

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

Sunday, 4 March 2012

Help yourself..

Problems are one thing which anyone and everyone faces all their life long. Problems can be related to anything. Just anything! A 3 year old is hungry and his mom is not around to feed him that could be his problem. Every teenage girl has a heart-break problem, not literally though. A newly graduated fresher has a job problem; a working person can have an increment or a promotion problem. A 50 year old may have retirement problems. Name them and they are there.
You also need to understand that no problem is big or small. Every problem has its importance according to its situation, a person’s age or gender, etc. so you can’t just neglect any issue which anyone is facing.

Have you ever wondered why we seem to have problems?
When we sense things are falling apart, we try to gather as much, as quickly as possible. But we do that only when we sense they are falling apart. Why do you think we realise our errors or wrong doings at the end of everything? Can it really be justified coherently?

Frankly I would say, or rather I don’t even need to say this, we know there is no point sulking on things after they have passed and have, like, Gone With The Wind. We always say better late than never. But have we ever reconsidered if it really helps? We can work on things when we have them in our hand. But once they start slipping away, no one can do anything. A glass once broken can never be joined again because even though we stick the broken parts it always shows the faded broken lines. It can never be used as it was before.

We say past is past, but our past makes us think in our present and improve our future. But how much ever true this might be, there comes a point when we have to let things go and understand that we do have a life left after all. It’s upon us to decide which thing affects how much to us. We can’t just keep drowning in the memories and effect of the so called past.
If you need help sorting your problems with your past, you need to talk. Rather not just past, any problem that you face isn’t going to be solved unless you talk it out. And instead of talking here and there, just open up to the concerned person. If nothing you’ll be satisfied that you at least gave it a try. Even seeing a shrink is one of the options.

My first question to you is do you think seeing a shrink (a psychiatrist) means you are MAD? If yes, then you definitely need to enlighten yourself. A shrink isn’t someone who will take your clothes off and give you electric shocks nor will he/she take you to a corner and redden your bum by beating you up with a baseball bat or something like that. Or if you think your friends or family will start maintaining distance from you just because you are seeing a shrink then that is their problem and not yours.
A shrink can only help you help yourself by helping you find out what your problems are, so that you can take care of them and sort your so called messed up life!

Anyways, that’s not what we are looking at right now, so, talking about problems, you really need to take a chill pill, RELAX, take time off for your own self to ponder upon things a little, take help if necessary and take the needed decision ASAP. ASAP because life waits for none, so you do need to move on and look forward to much bigger troubles and be ready for them. Follow this and you’ll feel life was Never Better!

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

Saturday, 26 November 2011

Who Cares?

Every 15th august, there emerges an Indian in every Indian. But this happens only on every 15th august. Every other day is a selfish day. No one is bothered about anyone or anything. Controversies, corruption, tragedies, mishaps, scams, attacks, all these terms are not new to us Indians. And the most important thing is, we are used to it now and so we hardly even care. If anyone touches our skin it’s only then we think of all these things and blame our constitution and the people including the so-called government. How many of us can actually, proudly call ourselves patriotic? How many of us stand still with respect when we hear our national anthem playing? How many of us try to stop something wrong happening in front of our eyes and at least try to help out of humanity?

To change the whole country we need to start with ourselves. But no one is ready to take even the 1st step. They say changing one person will not change the corrupt country. In a way this is something we can’t deny. Whenever there seems to be a good person, who we feel is genuine enough to change the society, there either comes news saying he’s dead or he himself is caught in some scam or controversy (genuinely or otherwise no one cares). Hence there is an end of the chapter. In a democratic country there is value for people’s opinion but in a country like India, the only value is given to the one and only thing Money. We think there are oldies filled in the government and that is the reason we need some youth power. But frankly speaking the youth of this country is no different that the oldies.

There are so many causes whose advantage can be taken and diversity can be created. We say we have unity in diversity but it is nothing of that sort. There is only discrimination, increasing distance between rich and poor, Casteism and overflowing selfishness. The all new appeals which are made every day, the reasons for certain strikes and riots, facilities provided to the undeserving, can make anybody laugh. In this country importance is given not to the people who stay here but to the outsiders. No doubt companies like the East India Company ever got a chance to stay put in the country and ending up ruling the country.

Slapping the ministers is going to make no good. They are already shameless; things like these won’t make much difference. We give 51% share to the FDI whereas the farmers in our country are dying of starvation and suicide. We export the best quality food whereas we eat food which is equivalent to dog shit. We encourage foreign companies and on the other hand do not provide facilities to our own small scale or even large scale industries. There are more rules for setting a person free of a judicial charge than imprisoning and punishing him. The common man is baring price hikes and criminals like Kasab are enjoying Indian “Atithi Devo Bhava” slogan.

All of this is going on since a long time. Naming everything brings more shame for us in our own eyes. Making movies like Nayak, RDB, Lagaan, etc. is seldom going to make difference. We are not safe off each other, how are we going to fight against something external when we ourselves welcome them and ask them to take charge?

It won’t be long that another East India Company will emerge someday, rule us, loot us, and leave us to rot in the already rotting shit. Enough of thinking; it’s time we actually take some actions. Blaming has always been easy executing against the blame is something we should think about.

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf...!

Sunday, 13 November 2011

The UnExpected...

Life always shows you different things at every phase. When you feel you have an eternity to think and do things your way, life laughs at you and says, FUCK YOU!

You can’t change the pattern, and surprisingly all bad things happen with good people. We never expect some things, but when they happen we feel the earth beneath us slipping and our mind blows off, which is why we call it a shock.

Even if we say we never know what might happen when, so we try to do everything we can, but that everything is never sufficient. It doesn’t make a difference if this happens with a closed person or an acquaintance, we have memories with everyone. Just that with closed ones the memories are more.

Death doesn’t have any criteria like age, qualification, deeds, or may be deeds are considered or maybe not. It just comes and takes away people and with them everything which is related to them. Only memories are left back.

I guess this is not something we can ever manage to handle nor can we do anything about it. Let us just accept it and move on.

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

Tuesday, 30 August 2011

One change: Some loss, Some gain...

In India, marriage is a very weird but a very common and must thing. We don’t leave our homes when we grow off age; we stay with our parents, our families. When we get married we have so many new relations, new surroundings to cope up with. Everything changes for both the girl and the guy. Most often there are arranged marriages here, but as time keeps changing so does the way of choosing a partner.

The girl is bestowed with so many new things that she has to carry with her utmost ability. She is now someone’s daughter in law, someone’s grand- daughter in law, an aunt, a sister is law, and most important someone’s wife. Well, the ‘Wife’ part comes a little late here. The reason is, when a guy chooses a girl, he sees that she should be well accepted by all of his family members. More than his wife, she is a daughter in law or a grand-daughter in law. So the major part is being accepted by his parents and grand-parents. She is the one who is supposed to take care of the whole family from now on. The same is with the girl. She chooses a guy whom all her family members accept and would love to see her with. Who they think would be able to take care of their girl and keep her happy all her life.
The guy’s life changes too. Though very little. He has never had much of responsibilities. Till now he just had to earn for his parents and live for himself. But now, he has a family, a family of his own. So now comes a time when his responsibilities increase. His way of living changes also changes. He has to adjust according to the new person in his life and home. The things which his mother used to do are now in his wife’s to-do list. He has a new face and environment to face when he gets back home from work. He has a new responsibility, his wife. He needs to keep her happy, support her and understand her. While doing this, he must also see that he isn’t hurting his parents and any of his own family people.
The girl has to undergo different way of living. Firstly, she has to live with an altogether different family, with their different way of living. She cannot live or be the way when in her parent’s home. She has to take care of many things. She has to be more composed responsible and understanding.
Things for a guy change less as compared to a girl because he doesn’t have to live with a different family nor does he have to leave his own. But in all this, this feeling of change is bliss. You start with difficulties but end up having a good future. If the girl’s in-laws are equally good they provide the girl a good support.

Everyone here goes through this marriage business. They love it, enjoy it, fear it, but have to go through it. This is not only about the marrying couple, but also about the people related to them. The mother has a weird understanding that her son or daughter has grown so much that he/she is supposed to get married. The others have the same feeling. The sister has played with her sister or brother in her childhood, has experienced so many changes together for all these years. But now the things will change. They are all happy with the new change. But there is also a loss of all those old days.

Things do change, you lose a bit, but still, you gain a lot more. There are many things to look forward to. Though looking back give u tears of happiness, you need to keep just one thing in mind. Cherish the old memories, and make way for the new ones coming your way.

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…

Tuesday, 26 July 2011

the girl thing...

Well m starting with something which is considered the toughest thing on earth, trying to decrypt a girl. Being a girl I myself have never really understood what a girl really wants! I doubt if they know what they actually want.
“The Fools” as they are called, they are the smartest! Sad that even they them self don’t realize this. A girl or a woman is the heart of everything. Without them nothing would take place. They are considered the most emotional of the species, the most sensitive and nostalgic ones. Well, the reason for all this is their inbuilt hormonal metabolism. They can’t help it either.
They have certain pattern in which they think and don’t know why every girl has the same set of rules for each and every thing. They confuse themselves with everything they do. They are highly expressive. They don’t need reasons to cry. They can start off at literally anything! PINK is their favorite color. They love chocolates, soft toys, and the word CUTE. Their smile can make you lose your senses!
Every girl dreams of her Prince Charming since birth! Most of the girls have an “ambition” in life to marry her prince charming. Whatever they do revolves and rotates around only one thing, love! I don’t really know how many of them understand what love is. They always want their guys talking about them and them only. If they say one good thing about any other girl may it even be her own best friend the fight starts! Comparison is a must in everything for these sweeties. They let themselves to be taken for granted by their men. They easily fall for words of care and concern. They open up to anyone who is ready to listen. But if anything goes wrong with the people whom they care for, say a best friend or a loved one then may god save the person who meant harm!
They have an irritating habit of biting the ears off with their continuous chatter. They just can’t keep shut. May it is a woman of any age, chatting has to be the favorite hobby!

Creativity is inbuilt too. They have a great sense of fashion and art. They know what looks good. Some don’t but they are quick learners in these fields. They have their own way of interpreting things. They know to search for signs for what they are looking forward to.
They have great managing skills too. They have time for everything including studying, playing with their dolls, dolling up themselves, and learning things from their mommies, to taking care of kitchen, managing their jobs and kids and husbands and everything. No doubt they are always confused!
One thing they don’t understand is how they put someone in soup by their own behavior. They are no way decisive! They always depend upon someone to take decisions for them. They just slog like donkeys and let the world do the thinking for them. No doubt they are used as show pieces in many places. Frankly speaking they know very well how to get work done but they don’t actually try things. Scared that they always are, always in a dilemma. But that doesn’t mean every girl is the same. Many girls now have understood their own power and have started using it. They know that they can live independently and don’t need to live like parasites and let themselves be ruled!
Sex is something they barely think of. They take 3 weeks to know if the guy they are with is good for them. (For a better reference please read “why men want sex and women need love by Barbara and Allan Pease”) I had read something which goes this way, “if you really want to spread news, tell it to a woman.”
They either have the tendency to give up anything and everything or grab everything them get or moreover don’t get. Today’s woman says they are no less than any man, which is because they are trying to free themselves from the way they are portrayed. They do fall on face sometimes but most of the times they stand firm and raise high. They will never take offence.
If they be bold they can make a whole male group face down with shame. The only good thing I can say about a woman is that, never ever underestimate them. You never know what they are capable of. If it comes to dare, girls dare more than guys do! They have more inner strength. If they can keep a child within themselves for 9 months and still do work and carry on their routine, if they can carry a child on their back in a war, you never know what else they can do, nor do they know! ;)
Ohk now enough I guess. All this girl talk is making my head spin again. I guess I’ll end it here before I start getting confused!
“God made earth and then he rested. After a while god made man, and he rested again. Then finally god made woman. Since then, neither man nor God has ever been to rest!”
Cheers to you, cheers to life…!

Wednesday, 29 June 2011

a short story...

In the hectic schedule of our lives, we have no time for anything. Feelings, emotions, people, beloved ones, we can think of nothing at all. I had been to a friend’s place today and saw that she was a little disturbed. When pressed a little she told me a story.

There was a sparrow couple which used to visit her place every morning since past year. The female was a little dumb. She used to come in through the living room window and roam about in the room. But she never used to find the way out. When she couldn’t find the way out she used to get hyper and used to chirp badly. Then the male sparrow used to chirp to her and lead her to their way out. This used to happen every day. Sometimes they used to play their games, sometimes the female used to tease the male and irritate him with many of her things like, unnecessarily getting food for him when he wasn’t hungry, chirp continuously when he was uninterested, then he used to turn his back to her and sit and she used to wander around him trying to seek his attention. The male used to be so caring that he used to ask her to stay out of the window and ask her to get in only after he had checked that the other window, which was their way out, was open. Once they had brought along a few friends who helped them get the raw materials to build their house. Both the females were made to sit out on the hedge of the balcony till the men were at work. Once they finished they would fly together.

Today morning my friend got up with a sound of continuous, loud chirping. She got off from her bed and went out in the living room. She was stunned with what she saw. The female sparrow was lying on the couch. Dead! The male sparrow was chirping badly. He couldn’t find his female companion. As soon as he felt my friend near him he flew away. My friend didn’t know what to do. She started crying and was just thinking about the male’s safety and state of mind.

She called the sweeper and asked him to take the female sparrow away. Even the sweeper felt something cold down his spine when he saw her. Still he took her away. The whole day the male sparrow sat waiting on the grill of the window, chirping continuously, in the hope that at least once would his female reply to him and they would go back home happily and he would never let her go away from him even for a while. But that fool doesn’t know that his darling would never return back to him now. He was madly in love with her.

Only for sometime there was a crow sitting on the grill. That was the only time the male sparrow left his place from the grill. He came back again, after the crow went away, chirping. Even when I left he was there. I won’t wonder if he is still there or if he would be there for another couple of days or weeks, waiting for her to return to his arms.

We humans are so dumb and insensitive. Nature is the best teacher. It is a boon to our lives. The small things we observe around us make us learn so many things but we turn a blind eye towards them thinking that we are the know-it-alls

Just consider a human situation instead. If a girl would have left a guy, would the guy wait all this long and care so much for a girl? Would he bother to lead her through her bad if she was silly or dumb or not capable enough? Would he do everything or leave everything just to see her smile? Not only a guy, but would a girl do all this for her love?

We humans consider ourselves and rank ourselves at the top. But we really need to think if we are worth enough to be called humans or rather if we are even worth living.

May be some of you found this story an emotional dose or utter sense of stupidity, but just think once. About every other time you see a sunset, every other time you feel you should have had some to hug tight. you parents, their love. your loved one if you have any. This is for them, and last but not the least, it is for you.

When ever you get tired of your loved one's tantrums, wish to be separated or even if a thought crosses your mind saying why on earth are we even together, remember, there is still a male sparrow waiting in the rain for his dear female sparrow with a hope that she would come back, thirsty, hungry, dried tears and in her memories. May be he will live and move on, may be he will wait for her till his last breathe and die..

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf...

Tuesday, 17 May 2011

missing you and me…

I so miss the time when, even after being so busy and tired you always took out time for me everyday. We used to sit like for an hour or so together, chatting. Me telling you everything about my day and you telling me what better I could have done. You shared everything with me the way I shared with you. I sharing what new I learnt and you teaching me more new ones. You had time for taking my studies, had time to feed me food, telling me stories. When you were out of them I used to ask you to repeat my favorite one “Dhruva bal”. We used to sit in the veranda till dad came back home. You were so busy, so stressed still you were all smiles.You shouted, scolded but just in minutes all of it used to vanish and you used to caress me, kiss me and become my ma again. Sometimes you me and dad used to play antakshari on Sunday evenings. we both used to sing and dad used to play keyboard and tables (as drums and tabla). You used to encourage me to sing and dance and would love to see all that I did.

Its been so long that we have spent some quality time together. Either you are busy or I am in a rush. Now the time is so that we just talk business and household and nothing else. We share nothing. You listen to nothing as you are tired. We have food together just once in a day that too in front of that idiot box which I hate the most! Whenever I come to you, you have some or other work. Even if you are home you are still working. Either household or business. I seek time from your busy schedule and talk and share a little. But you are always in a hurry. I know nothing is in your hands and you cant spare yourself from work. And this is not something which is going to change. just a time of few years and even I will be busy with my career. We would still be fighting with time to catch up with each other.

I just want to tell you that I miss you Ma and I miss the times we have had together. the laughs, the cries the fun, everything! I am what I am all because of you. Love you always!

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

Monday, 16 May 2011

aathvani

भास समजतो आपण त्यांना
पण असतात खऱ्या त्या
हव्याहव्याशा वाटत असतात
पण मिळत नाहीत परत त्या

झोकून द्यावेसे वाटते तेव्हा
चिंता नको कसली
मनातले सारे उघडून द्यावे
आनंदाने बेभान, घेऊ भरारी

सुवास तो तसाच राहावा
तसाच असावा तो ओलावा
त्यांचाच मुळे जगतो आपण
नकळत मनाला करतात मोकळा

सुखाचे सोबती असतात त्या
दुखातही साथ देतात
रडव्या मनाला कधी कधी
खुदकन हसवून जातात

आपल्या मनात घर करत
जन्मभराचे साथीदार बनतात
प्रत्येक क्षणी मैत्रीच्या रुपाने
ह्यांना गोड आठवणी असे म्हणतात

cheers to you, cheers to lyf...!