Diamonds In The Coal

There are all kinds of people whom we encounter in our lives. Some good, some bad, annoying, happening and what not. All these judgements by the way are particularly personal perceptions. When we call a person annoying it’s not him but our perception about him or her. Some might find the person amusing too. It is just about how we look at things. Sometime you don’t give a darn about a person but he or she makes it a point to stand by you. Let’s consider our parents for instance. They may not like certain things we do or don’t but when in need they are surely the ones to stand by our side without any ado. It happens that somehow we start taking certain people for granted and slowly start turning a blind eye and a deaf ear to everything they do or say.

Not just our parents but many people in general who are close to us or, kind of, care about what we do and don’t with our lives. We do not like some people. The way they talk, live, behave with us or anyone. They might have some annoying habits which tend to keep you off them but then there is what they feel for you. How much every you blame them, repel them, say all the possible worst things on the earth to them but they never budge. They stick with you all the way long. They offer you help and say “I’m there. You are my friend after all.” No matter how bad you have been to them prior to this. Things somehow never tend to bother them. Of course they must get hurt but somehow they have the strongest will power and firmest belief on their friendship or if not a friend their relationship.

That person can be anyone from a parent, a friend to a partner in life. There are people or couples you clash in life and wonder “How can he/she bear this? I would have kicked the hell out of the so and so person.” But that’s them and here are you. They have a strong endurance and tolerance but what is important is that you need to understand this at some point of time and really need to treat them right. If they were stuck to you in your thick and thin without expecting anything then they definitely deserve at least something, be it even some little thing that you can do. There is no point telling them to back off. Instead, you need to make a move and understand why do you find them so annoying? Is it their love, constant care, interference or what? You need to point out and try discussing things out. In some situations the person is not even someone close to you but they still keep on nagging. Obviously if you are someone who doesn’t like to open up to everyone and share everything with everyone, you will find it pesky. But then you need to drag the line yourself and try to explain things and sort them. Mind you, you need them more than they need you.

I mean, look at yourself. Are you that perfect? Don’t you yourself have any annoying habits which others might not stand? Come on nobody is perfect so evidently you are not an exception as well eh? You need to remind yourself that when you show someone down you are under the depths for someone yourself. It is not everyday that you get lucky with having someone to count on no matter what you do. So next time before repelling them or hurting them in any manner think about how they stick to you with all your faults and be with you no matter what blunder you yourself are. Trust me you won't need a lot of efforts as they really don’t expect much. All they need is the same love in response to the love they hold for you. Affordable right?

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

Thanks Giving...

We inculcate so many things from the western culture. Their dressing, rituals, weddings, styles, accents and what not. Many Indians blame the western culture for the misbehaving next generation. The reason is the huge gap between both the cultures. There are good and bad things in both the culture if you really consider the facts. How about inculcating the good parts of the West? Every year the fourth Thursday of November is considered as Thanks Giving. Thanks Giving is a part of their culture unlike us by the way. For us thanking someone is a big deal in itself whereas they have this festival mind you, the ones who crib about them being ridiculous. Anyway, that’s not the path we are here to follow today.

When someone does something for us we thank them. Especially if it’s a stranger, we are all into showing our good manners and etiquettes. But what about the people who actually do all they can for us and do not expect a single thing in return? Do we ever consider thanking them for all that they have been doing for us all along? Knowingly and unknowingly people do something or the other for us all our as well as their lives. These people can be our close buddies, our relatives, our siblings and even our parents. Believe it or not but every person you meet in your life helps you with something and lets you grow. Be it your neighbor, some person you have hated all your life or even a few of your good or bad wishers. In some or the other manner all these people have been there always. Let’s take our parents for example. We simple cannot enlist all the things they have done for us. Not only that they have given us birth but they have given us everything we want at all the required times of life. They have always shown tremendous love and support throughout. Even in poverty they have assured us security and provided us with everything that we required. Obviously we cannot thank them enough for all they have done for us. But we can try that by our deeds. Similarly there are many such people who have been through our thick and thin. Someone who listened to us when we wanted to cry our heart out and never shared that moment with anyone else even though they hated listening to us crib. Someone who has taken all our tantrums and not uttered a word, someone who has been through your craziness and yet stood by you calling you a friend.

All these people need to be thanked for whatever they have done. No matter what they feel about you now or no matter what you feel about them you need to thank them not for them but for you to feel good and free. Thanking someone or giving them their earned credit makes them happy and eventually you are happy as well. I have always voiced it through my previous posts as well that everyone who has earned some kind of credit in your life needs to be awarded with the same. Let’s just try and celebrate this Thanks Giving whenever possible. There is no particular time or day when you need to thank people. You just do it. Keep your ego aside and feel all the good things about everyone, even the person whom you might dislike or even hate. This also helps in another way that is, when you think about all the good things about the person you dislike, may it be even one good thing, there is a possibility that your perception about that person might change. You might not hate that person or dislike the person to the extent you did previously. Now, it might crop up in your mind that what if the person you dislike dislikes you too and laughs out at you when you thank him or her for something and you end up annoyed? Just remember one thing, you are doing it for yourself and not for anyone else. Who cares about what he/she thinks? You are following your deeds and you will bear the fruit for the same. There is no point thinking otherwise. Trust me this really makes you feel content and aloof of any feeling of pressure or obligation. Try it once maybe you will find yourself at peace.

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!