missing you and me…

I so miss the time when, even after being so busy and tired you always took out time for me everyday. We used to sit like for an hour or so together, chatting. Me telling you everything about my day and you telling me what better I could have done. You shared everything with me the way I shared with you. I sharing what new I learnt and you teaching me more new ones. You had time for taking my studies, had time to feed me food, telling me stories. When you were out of them I used to ask you to repeat my favorite one “Dhruva bal”. We used to sit in the veranda till dad came back home. You were so busy, so stressed still you were all smiles.You shouted, scolded but just in minutes all of it used to vanish and you used to caress me, kiss me and become my ma again. Sometimes you me and dad used to play antakshari on Sunday evenings. we both used to sing and dad used to play keyboard and tables (as drums and tabla). You used to encourage me to sing and dance and would love to see all that I did.

Its been so long that we have spent some quality time together. Either you are busy or I am in a rush. Now the time is so that we just talk business and household and nothing else. We share nothing. You listen to nothing as you are tired. We have food together just once in a day that too in front of that idiot box which I hate the most! Whenever I come to you, you have some or other work. Even if you are home you are still working. Either household or business. I seek time from your busy schedule and talk and share a little. But you are always in a hurry. I know nothing is in your hands and you cant spare yourself from work. And this is not something which is going to change. just a time of few years and even I will be busy with my career. We would still be fighting with time to catch up with each other.

I just want to tell you that I miss you Ma and I miss the times we have had together. the laughs, the cries the fun, everything! I am what I am all because of you. Love you always!

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

aathvani

भास समजतो आपण त्यांना
पण असतात खऱ्या त्या
हव्याहव्याशा वाटत असतात
पण मिळत नाहीत परत त्या

झोकून द्यावेसे वाटते तेव्हा
चिंता नको कसली
मनातले सारे उघडून द्यावे
आनंदाने बेभान, घेऊ भरारी

सुवास तो तसाच राहावा
तसाच असावा तो ओलावा
त्यांचाच मुळे जगतो आपण
नकळत मनाला करतात मोकळा

सुखाचे सोबती असतात त्या
दुखातही साथ देतात
रडव्या मनाला कधी कधी
खुदकन हसवून जातात

आपल्या मनात घर करत
जन्मभराचे साथीदार बनतात
प्रत्येक क्षणी मैत्रीच्या रुपाने
ह्यांना गोड आठवणी असे म्हणतात

cheers to you, cheers to lyf...!

aakanksha..!

मनात आकांक्षा पण उघडणार कुठे
एका कोपर्यात बंद करून लक्षातही येऊ द्यायचे नाही असेल जीथे

त्या कोपर्यात पुन्हा फिरकायचेही नाही
फिरकलो तरीही हसत हसत तोंड फिरवून, पुन्हा मागे वळून पहायचे नाही

बरेचदा जाणवतात या गोष्टी सर्वांना मनात
विसरायला लागतात त्या दुसऱ्यांसाठी क्षणात

म्हटलंच आहे कुणी आहे हे आयुष्य एक रंगमंच
कधी हसून कधी रडून चालतच राहते हे प्रपंच

चालतच राहते हे मनातल्या मनात बधले जाणे
कुणालाही ऐकायचे नसते तुमच्या आयुष्याचे हे तराणे

आयुष्याच्या सहलीत साथ तुम्हाला तुमचीच
स्वतःला साथ द्यायला साथ लागते मनाचीच

म्हणून त्या मनालाच जपावे लागते
मनातल्या मनात कुडत राहणे सोडावे लागते

त्याला जरा मोकळे सोडून पहावे लागते
आशेचा तो एक किरण दिसला की अखेरच्या भरारी साठी सोडावे लागते...!

cheers to you, cheers to life..!

the seeding and the growth...

One of the things which make our life happy, beautiful and also tactful is children. We make them, build them and with them we make ourselves very tough and skillful. It is a very difficult job to handle and develop them. They grow and develop according to the parenting they get, their surroundings and their own experiences. Understanding them and thinking from their point of view is really necessary. We think children don’t have an opinion of their own. But they can have. They should be made used to take decisions and form opinions. They know what they like and what they need, but just that sometimes they cannot decide what to opt for. Everything we teach them gets fixed in their mind so well that even after a long span of time since the teaching or any particular incident or something takes place, they remember that situation or taught stuff thoroughly. Like we learnt alphabets when we were kids and we remember it better than any other thing in life. Even if someone wakes us up from a deep sleep n asks we can still answer. Likewise any good or bad incident taking place in our life has the respective impact on our lives. We think in the same way which we are used to, unless we plan to change patterns.

People, parents, friends, teachers, neighbors play a great role in forming a child’s life. Between them, parents and teachers are the ones whom they actually rely on and try to imitate as they are the ones with whom they spend major part of their lives.

Many things help to make a child’s mind healthy. A dialogue between parents and a child is very important. They should be asked for opinions. They know what to do if we leave it up to them. This makes them decisive. Though small not necessary they should be treated small. They should be made a part of everything. This inculcates a sense of responsibility in them. They must learn something from everything. But they should also be provided with their own space and their privacy.

Maturing before age is not at all wrong. If a child wants something like a toy or something and also a book for his curriculum and you cannot afford both at the same time, no need to hide your status from him. He must know the truth. Its not that children don’t understand, it’s just that they don’t get a chance.

Being friendly with them is also important. It’s necessary to keep their eyes open to difficulties and opportunities. With your help they can also take the most important decisions of life, they just need a chance. “You are still small, you don’t understand, you have not seen the world”. Statements like these upset the children and make them feel inferior. If they are small let them be, if they do not understand make them understand, if they haven’t sent he world show them the world! Let them experience everything, be it anything. They should know that it’s their life and no-one has a right on it other than them, not even you! It’s they who have to make it or lose it. They shouldn’t come in any influence.

It’s necessary to trust your children and make them trust themselves. There is no place for emotional fools, making them practical is essential. Make them realize that they can count on you if they go wrong in life. Show them the right path. But with all this one thing is very very important and should be taken care of. Children are not your property! They are souls with their own opinions; their own bursting wills and wishes. They shouldn’t be treated as things or objects. They are like beautiful flowers blooming on green earth. Let them try themselves with the game of life and with this you can see an ever growing smile on their face which will make your chest swell with pride!

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!